When anyone says that a marriage and relationships are 50/50, meaning everyone has to give and take equally, they are w r o n g. Someone has to take lead and, as one great Author wrote and informed us, that role belongs to the guys who are to set a leadership and, more importantly, a servant example.
It is not equitable and it is not fair and it is not meant to be because healthy relationships do not balance out an imaginary account of who is supposed to do good or give in next and the like. The Guys hold the role of setting the standard, getting things going in the right direction and making sure they stay in that direction.
It is not fair because that same Author said that all that the Women are supposed to do is to honor us Men and all that the Men are supposed to do is to love their Ladies as Christ loves His Church and 'gave' Himself, sacrificially, for her well-being, welfare and full life.
If for no other reason but that our Wives must walk through and visit the Valley of the Shadow of Death to bring us our greatest blessing, our Children, we Men should jump at the opportunity to defer to Her and make sure her life goes as smoothly as is possible for all of the days of her life. She doesn't have to be perfect or measured by some standard in order to be given this place of prominence - it is directed and is a command in God's Word. God expects it.
I suggest that to begin the journey toward that selfless place of servant leadership, the Men start by throwing away and giving up all expectations. Now, just a moment. It doesn't mean that she doesn't have her specific roles to fulfill because she does and God is just as serious about Her role as He is ours. However, if we serve or relate to one another based on their performance, then any Relationship will be subject to greater frustrations and grief or bitterness from unfulfilled expectations and that leads to heartache. Instead, act, serve, lead, love as though you had no expectations, at all, and from these purified motives, do good to Her always, at all times. What you will find out is that you are enriching your 'garden' and you are trusting God to honor our obedience and bring back to you the harvest of love, respect, honor, etc. as a result of the godly example you have set and by taking the lead sowing good seeds.
Nope! It's not fair because we Men have a greater role of responsibility. Make her heart, mind and days carefree. Treat her as a queen as a way to honor God and His Word. Forgive and forget wrongs. Be constant in being the godly example God demands and do so as unto the Lord, as being a worship of service, and see what God does to make yours a most blessed Relationship.
It is not equitable and it is not fair and it is not meant to be because healthy relationships do not balance out an imaginary account of who is supposed to do good or give in next and the like. The Guys hold the role of setting the standard, getting things going in the right direction and making sure they stay in that direction.
It is not fair because that same Author said that all that the Women are supposed to do is to honor us Men and all that the Men are supposed to do is to love their Ladies as Christ loves His Church and 'gave' Himself, sacrificially, for her well-being, welfare and full life.
If for no other reason but that our Wives must walk through and visit the Valley of the Shadow of Death to bring us our greatest blessing, our Children, we Men should jump at the opportunity to defer to Her and make sure her life goes as smoothly as is possible for all of the days of her life. She doesn't have to be perfect or measured by some standard in order to be given this place of prominence - it is directed and is a command in God's Word. God expects it.
I suggest that to begin the journey toward that selfless place of servant leadership, the Men start by throwing away and giving up all expectations. Now, just a moment. It doesn't mean that she doesn't have her specific roles to fulfill because she does and God is just as serious about Her role as He is ours. However, if we serve or relate to one another based on their performance, then any Relationship will be subject to greater frustrations and grief or bitterness from unfulfilled expectations and that leads to heartache. Instead, act, serve, lead, love as though you had no expectations, at all, and from these purified motives, do good to Her always, at all times. What you will find out is that you are enriching your 'garden' and you are trusting God to honor our obedience and bring back to you the harvest of love, respect, honor, etc. as a result of the godly example you have set and by taking the lead sowing good seeds.
Nope! It's not fair because we Men have a greater role of responsibility. Make her heart, mind and days carefree. Treat her as a queen as a way to honor God and His Word. Forgive and forget wrongs. Be constant in being the godly example God demands and do so as unto the Lord, as being a worship of service, and see what God does to make yours a most blessed Relationship.
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